Relationship Advice in Houston TX: Building Stronger Bonds Through Faith

Christian Perspectives on Healthy Relationships in Houston



Relationship Advice in Houston TX:

Building Stronger Bonds Through Faith



You know that moment when you're driving on 610 and someone cuts you off without signaling? In that split second, you become judge, jury, and... well, let's just say your verdict isn't charitable. "What an idiot!" flies out before you can catch it. Maybe you add a few choice observations about their driving skills, their upbringing, or their general contribution to society.


Then, about three exits later, you realize you need to change lanes quickly. You dart over. No signal. Someone honks. And suddenly you remember: you had a good reason. You almost missed your exit. You were distracted thinking about that meeting, that medical test, that conversation with your teenager.


Funny how quickly we go from judge to defendant, isn't it?


Welcome to the human condition. Welcome to what Jesus knew about us all along.




The Plank and the Speck


This morning we're diving into Matthew chapter 7, where Jesus delivers one of His most memorable images. Picture this: you're walking around with a two-by-four sticking out of your eye, and you tap your neighbor on the shoulder. "Hey buddy, hold still. You've got a speck of sawdust in there. Let me get that for you."


Jesus wasn't known for slapstick comedy, but this image? Pure genius. Everyone laughs because everyone recognizes themselves. We're all amateur ophthalmologists when it comes to other people's problems.


"Do not judge," Jesus says, "or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."


Now hold on. Is Jesus telling us never to evaluate anything? Never to call out genuine wrongdoing? Some people read it that way, but that's not what's happening here. Jesus Himself made plenty of judgments. He called out hypocrisy. He overturned tables in the temple. He didn't mince words with religious leaders who were hurting people.


No, Jesus is talking about something deeper. He's talking about the peculiar blindness we have to our own faults while maintaining 20/20 vision for everyone else's. He's talking about the kind of judgment that writes people off, that assumes we know their whole story, that elevates us while diminishing them.



The Micah Standard


Let's bring in the prophet Micah for a moment. Our liturgist read those powerful words: "He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the LORD require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God."


Three things. Not three hundred. Not a complex theological treatise. Three things that a child could understand but that take a lifetime to master.


Act justly. Love mercy. Walk humbly.


Notice the progression? Justice without mercy becomes harsh. Mercy without justice becomes enabling. But both without humility? That's where things really go sideways. That's when we become the very Pharisees Jesus was warning about.


Humility is the secret ingredient that makes everything else work. It's what allows us to act justly without becoming self-righteous. It's what allows us to love mercy without becoming doormats. It's what keeps us walking with God instead of strutting ahead like we know the way.



The Relationship Economy


Here's what I've learned after years of ministry, years of marriage, years of just being human: relationships are the real currency of the Kingdom of God. Not money, though we need to steward that. Not talents, though God gives those too. Relationships. The messy, beautiful, complicated connections between human beings who are all walking around with planks in their eyes, all desperate to be seen and known and loved anyway.


Every Sunday, you walk into this sanctuary carrying relationships. The marriage that's harder than you thought it would be. The friendship that went south over politics. The adult child who won't return your calls. The coworker who takes credit for your ideas. The neighbor whose dog won't stop barking at 3 AM.


And here's the thing: God cares about every single one of those relationships. Not just your relationship with Him, though that's primary. He cares about how you treat the barista who messed up your order. He cares about how you respond to that family member who always pushes your buttons at Thanksgiving dinner.


Why? Because we're not just blessed to be blessed. Say it with me: "We are blessed to bless; we receive to give."

The mercy we receive from God isn't meant to pool up in our hearts like standing water. It's meant to flow through us to others. The grace that covers our planks is the same grace we're called to extend to others' specks.



The Houston Test


Living in Houston gives us a unique laboratory for this kind of kingdom stewardship. We're one of the most diverse cities on the planet. You can drive down Hillcroft and hear seventeen languages in ten blocks. Your kids go to school with children from every continent. Your workplace looks like a United Nations meeting.


This diversity is a gift, but let's be honest: it's also a challenge. More differences mean more opportunities for judgment. More chances to assume we know someone's story based on their accent, their clothes, their politics, their denomination.


I met a man at the grocery store last week. Middle Eastern accent, buying ingredients I didn't recognize. Ten years ago, I might have made assumptions. Might have kept my distance. But Kingdom stewardship of relationships means seeing past surface differences to the image of God underneath.


Turns out he was shopping for a church potluck. His congregation was hosting a meal for homeless veterans. The ingredients I didn't recognize? His grandmother's recipe that he was adapting to feed two hundred people.


How many relationships do we miss because we judge too quickly? How many potential brothers and sisters in Christ do we write off because they don't fit our predetermined categories?



The Forgiveness Project


Let me tell you about Tom and Sandra. Real couple, different names. They'd been married twenty-three years when they walked into my office. They weren't speaking to each other, just to me, like I was serving as translator for two people who'd forgotten they spoke the same language.


The presenting issue was money. Tom had made a significant financial decision without consulting Sandra. But as we talked, layers peeled back. Sandra had her own secret credit card debt. Tom felt dismissed and disrespected. Sandra felt invisible and unvalued.

Twenty-three years of accumulated specks and planks. Twenty-three years of keeping score.


"What does God require?" I asked them, pulling out Micah. "Justice, mercy, and humility."


Tom wanted justice. Sandra had wronged him.


Sandra wanted justice. Tom had wronged her.


Both were right. Both had been wronged. But justice alone wouldn't heal their marriage. They needed mercy, that supernatural ability to give what isn't deserved. And they needed humility, the recognition that they were both broken people in need of grace.


It took months. There were setbacks. Old patterns die hard. But slowly, they began to practice kingdom stewardship with their relationship. They started seeing their marriage not as something they owned but as something they stewarded for God's glory.


Last month, they renewed their vows. Twenty-five years. Not perfect, but pursuing. Not arriving, but traveling together.



The Practical Path


So how do we actually do this? How do we steward our relationships with kingdom priorities? Let me give you some practical steps, not a neat list of three, but a handful of practices that can transform how we relate to others.


First, start with the plank. Before you evaluate anyone else today, take five minutes for self-examination. What are you blind to? What criticism do you level at others that might actually apply to you? This isn't about self-flagellation. It's about honest recognition of our shared brokenness.


Second, practice the pause. When someone irritates you, when you feel judgment rising, pause. Take a breath. Ask yourself: What might be happening in their life that I don't know about? That person who was rude at the store might have just received a diagnosis. That aggressive driver might be rushing to the hospital. You don't know. That pause creates space for mercy.


Third, apologize specifically. Not "I'm sorry if I hurt you." That's not an apology. That's a deflection. Try this: "I'm sorry I raised my voice. That was wrong. Will you forgive me?" Specific acknowledgment of specific wrongs. This is what humility looks like in practice.


Fourth, extend grace preemptively. Instead of waiting for people to earn your kindness, give it freely. This is what God did for us, right? "While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." We didn't clean up first. Grace came first.


Fifth, invest in restoration. Some relationships are broken. Maybe they've been broken for years. Kingdom stewardship means being willing to take the first step toward healing, even if you weren't the primary one at fault. Especially if you weren't the primary one at fault. That's when mercy shines brightest.



The Church as Relationship Laboratory


Here's what I love about the local church: it forces us into relationships we wouldn't choose. Left to our own devices, we'd surround ourselves with people who think like us, vote like us, look like us. But the church? The church throws together the oil executive and the environmental activist, the teenager and the retiree, the immigrant and the seventh-generation Texan.


And we're supposed to love each other. Not just tolerate. Not just coexist. Love.


This is the genius of God's design. The church becomes a laboratory for kingdom relationships. We practice on each other. We fail with each other. We forgive each other. We try again.


I've watched it happen right here at St. John's. The conservative grandfather and the progressive granddaughter, serving side by side at the food pantry. The divorced woman and the happily married couple, supporting each other through loss. The recovering addict and the teetotaler, sharing communion.


These relationships don't happen automatically. They require intentional stewardship. They require us to act justly when we see wrong, to love mercy when people fail, and to walk humbly knowing we're all in process.



The Thanksgiving Table Test


In two weeks, many of you will sit around Thanksgiving tables with extended family. This is where the rubber meets the road. Can you practice kingdom stewardship of relationships with Uncle Frank who won't stop talking about politics? With your sister who makes passive-aggressive comments about your parenting? With your mother-in-law who still thinks you're not good enough for her baby?


Here's my challenge: pick one relationship at that table to steward differently this year. Just one. Maybe it's the person you usually avoid. Maybe it's the one you typically argue with. What would it look like to approach them with justice, mercy, and humility?


Justice might mean having an honest conversation about a hurt that needs addressing. But do it with mercy, recognizing their humanity and struggles. And do it with humility, acknowledging your own contribution to the dysfunction.


Or maybe this year, justice means letting something go. Maybe mercy means choosing not to take the bait when they cast the line. Maybe humility means admitting, at least to yourself, that you've been part of the problem.



The Divine Interruption


Here's what strikes me most about Jesus' teaching on judgment: He knows we're going to fail at this. He knows we're going to judge others while blind to our own faults. He knows we're going to choose justice without mercy, or mercy without justice, or neither with humility.


That's why the Gospel is good news. It's not a self-improvement program where we gradually get better at relationships through our own effort. It's a divine interruption where God's grace transforms us from the inside out, making us capable of loving in ways we never could on our own.


When you really grasp the mercy you've received, when you really understand the plank that God removed from your eye, extending grace to others becomes less of a duty and more of an overflow. You're not trying to be merciful. Mercy is flowing through you because you're connected to its source.


This is kingdom stewardship of relationships: recognizing that every human connection is an opportunity to display God's character. Every conflict is a chance to show what reconciliation looks like. Every hurt is an invitation to demonstrate supernatural forgiveness.



The Mission Continues


We don't steward relationships just for our own benefit. This isn't spiritual self-help. We steward relationships because the watching world needs to see what kingdom community looks like.


People in Houston are lonely. They're disconnected. They have five hundred Facebook friends but no one to call at 2 AM when life falls apart. They're surrounded by millions of people but feel invisible.


When we steward our relationships with kingdom values, we become living advertisements for a different way of being human. We show that conflict doesn't have to end in destruction. We demonstrate that differences don't have to divide. We prove that grace is real and transformation is possible.


This is missional living. Not just inviting people to church, though please do that. But showing them what church looks like Monday through Saturday. Showing them what happens when regular people commit to extraordinary love.



The Invitation


So here's my invitation as we close: take inventory of your relationships. Not all of them. That would be overwhelming. Just the top five. The ones that take up the most emotional real estate in your life.


How are you stewarding them? Are you acting justly, addressing wrongs that need addressing? Are you loving mercy, extending grace even when it's not deserved? Are you walking humbly, recognizing your own need for forgiveness?


Where there's brokenness, what would restoration require? Where there's distance, what would drawing closer look like? Where there's judgment, what would mercy feel like?


Remember: with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. But also remember: the God who measures is the same God who sent His Son to remove every plank, to forgive every sin, to restore every relationship that sin has broken.


You are blessed to bless. You receive to give. The mercy flowing to you is meant to flow through you. The grace that covers you is meant to spill over onto others.


This is kingdom stewardship of relationships. This is what makes the church different from any other organization on earth. This is what the watching world needs to see.


And this is what we're inviting you into here at St. John's. Not perfect relationships. We don't have those. But purposeful ones. Not relationships without conflict, but relationships where conflict leads to deeper connection. Not relationships without hurt, but relationships where hurt gets healed.


Come as you are, plank and all. But don't plan to stay that way. God's got some surgery to do, some mercy to distribute, some relationships to restore. And He wants to do it through a community of people who are learning to act justly, love mercy, and walk humbly together.

That's the invitation. That's the mission. That's the joy of kingdom stewardship.


We are blessed to bless. We receive to give.


Let's Pray


Merciful God, we confess that we have been harsh judges and poor forgivers. We have noticed every speck while ignoring our planks. We have demanded justice for others while pleading mercy for ourselves. Forgive our hypocrisy. Forgive our broken relationships. Forgive our failure to walk humbly with You.


Teach us to steward our relationships with the same grace You show us. Make us agents of restoration in a world of division. Help us to act justly, love mercy, and walk humbly in every relationship You've given us.


And Lord, for those sitting here with relationship wounds that feel too deep to heal, pour out Your supernatural grace. Where we cannot forgive in our own strength, be our strength. Where we cannot love in our own power, be our power.


We are blessed to bless. We receive to give. Make it so in our lives, for Your glory and our good.

In Jesus' name, Amen.



Learn more about relationships


Learn more about where we are coming from on this topic of relationships. Explore Best Non-Mega Church Houston: Why St. John's Presbyterian Offers Real Faith Beyond Hype. Dig deeper and find a new perspective on your relationship problems. Take a minute to consider The Power of Words and Silence.



About the Author

Pastor Jon has served St. John's Presbyterian Church in Houston for over a decade and is the author of 34+ books on Christian spirit available on Amazon. 


He is an innovator in both the community and at the church, bringing in major initiatives like the Single Parent Family Ministry housing with PCHAS, the One Hope Preschool program, and expanding the community garden that brings together church members and neighbors. 


Under his leadership, St. John's has become known for practical service that makes a real difference in the community. 


His approach is simple: "We're real people who worship and serve Jesus Christ with no frills."

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Houston has organizations that assist with funeral expenses for low-income families. I can't promise solutions, but I can help you look for options you might not know exist. The point is this: dignity in death shouldn't depend on economics. We won't make your grief harder by adding financial stress or making you feel less-than because you can't afford what funeral homes market as "proper" services. A Final Word About Searching "Funeral Services Near Me" You probably found this article because you're in pain. Someone you love is gone, and you're trying to figure out what to do next, where to hold a service that will honor them and support your family and feel somehow adequate to this enormous loss. No funeral service is adequate, actually. That's the hard truth. No matter how beautiful the flowers, how perfect the music, how eloquent the words, nothing makes death okay. Nothing fills the hole left by a person you loved. But sacred ritual helps. Community helps. 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The Epistle for October 1, 2025 October 1, 2025   "Faith in the Storm" - Our Job Sermon Series in Book Form Dear Church Family,  As we conclude our Job sermon series this Sunday, I'm excited to share that the sermons, studies, and worship resources we've been using are being published as a book: Faith in the Storm: Finding Hope in the Book of Job. This comprehensive resource will be available on Amazon in the coming days. Over these past weeks, we've walked together through Job's journey—from devastating loss to honest lament, from the silence of God to His voice in the whirlwind, and finally to restoration that honors our scars. Many of you have shared how Job's story has given you permission to grieve honestly while still trusting God. That's exactly why this book exists: to help churches create sacred space for both tears and praise, for questions and faith, for lament and hope. The book includes all five sermons from our series, complete worship liturgies for every season, healing service resources, small group discussion materials, and personal reflection exercises. Whether you want to revisit the sermons we've shared, lead your own study group, or gift it to someone walking through their own storm, this resource transforms Job's ancient witness into contemporary hope. It doesn't offer easy answers—instead, it provides something better: companionship for the journey and trust in the God who speaks through storms. Thank you for wrestling with these hard questions alongside me. Your honest engagement with suffering and faith has shaped this resource. As Job discovered, and as we've learned together: "God speaks in the storm; we trust in God's faithfulness." Grace and peace, Pastor Jon     Advent Innovations Workshop *Saturday, October 4 *McPhail Hall, St. John’s Presbyterian Church Advent is the season that leads us into Christmas—a time of hope, waiting, and preparation. Join us for a workshop exploring fresh opportunities for spiritual formation this year. Together we’ll share ideas and plans for: Creative spirituality and prayer centers Special services of comfort for those who are grieving Educational events for all ages And more ways to deepen our walk with God Come, bring your imagination, and help shape meaningful practices for this holy season. 👉 Register in advance so we have a head count for lunch. Register here: https://form.jotform.com/252387241427054     Healing Hearts: A New Ministry of Care and Encouragement Healing Hearts will meet in the church office building in the Prayer Room on Wednesday, October 8th from 7:00PM to 8:00PM and on Monday, October 27th from 11:00AM to 12:00 Noon. Healing Hearts, a grief and bereavement support group. Led by Lisa Sparaco, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and member of our church, this group will provide a safe and faith-filled space for sharing stories, receiving encouragement, and walking together through seasons of loss. This is not a therapy group, but a ministry of care and prayer for all who grieve. Healing Hearts is open both to members of St. John’s and to the wider community. We encourage you to share this opportunity with your friends and neighbors who may need such support. Meetings will take place in the Prayer Room, beginning in October 2025, on the second Wednesday of each month from 7:00–8:00 PM and the last Monday of each month from 11:00 AM–12:00 Noon. This schedule provides both an evening option for those who work during the day and a daytime option for those who prefer not to drive at night.   Men of the Church The Men of the Church meets tonight, Wednesday, October 1, at 6:30 PM in the Session Room. All men are welcome to attend.   Apostle's Creed Class We recite the Apostle’s Creed every Sunday in church. It is an ancient creed – it first appears in a form close to what we recite in 341AD. The creed summarizes essential doctrines and serves as a unifying symbol across various Christian denominations. However, it is very easy to recite the creed by rote without really understanding the importance of these doctrines to our Christian faith. The CE committee is offering an opportunity to dive into the Apostle’s creed to understand where these doctrine come from and why they are important. The class will be on 18 Oct from 8:30am to 2pm. Lunch will be provided. There is a sign up sheet in the Narthex so we can get a good head count for the materials and for lunch. We hope to see you there!   Nominating Committee The Nominating Committee for this year is composed of Shirley Boyd, Moderator; Michael Bisase, Clerk; and members Jim Austin, Franklin Caspa, and Wright Williams. If you have a suggestion for someone to serve as elder, please speak with one of them so your candidate may be prayerfully considered. We move forward in trust, asking God to open hearts, provide willing servants, and grant us wisdom in our discernment.   Peacemaking Offering On October 5, We will celebrate World Communion Sunday. We will also collect the Peace and Global Witness Offering . It enables the church to promote the Peace of Christ by addressing systems of conflict and injustice across the world. Through the Peace & Global Witness Offering, congregations are encouraged and equipped to find and address the anxiety and discord that is prevalent throughout this broken and sinful world. Envelopes are at the back of the sanctuary. The Peace and Global Witness Offering enables the church to promote the Peace of Christ by addressing systems of conflict and injustice across the world. Through the Peace & Global Witness Offering, congregations are encouraged and equipped to find and address the anxiety and discord that is prevalent throughout this broken and sinful world. 25% retained by congregations to support peacemaking efforts in their local communities. 25% retained by mid councils to support peacemaking efforts at the regional level. 50% supports peacemaking, reconciliation and global witness.   Living Gift Market – November 16, 2025 Mark your calendars! St. John’s will host the annual Living Gift Market on Sunday, November 16, 2025. This special event is part of our Faith in Action ministry, connecting us with global mission partners and providing an opportunity to give gifts that make a real difference in the lives of others . This year, we also plan to enjoy a fellowship meal during the market. Because several of our faithful cooks are ill or caring for loved ones, we are asking for help from the congregation. Beginning this Sunday, a sign-up sheet will be available in the Narthex for those willing to bring a dish. Your contribution will bless the whole church family and help make the market a joyful celebration of giving and sharing. Come, participate, and let’s make this year’s Living Gift Market a true witness to God’s abundance.     Friends of Lulwanda Fellowship Dinner Saturday, October 4, 5-8 PM Memorial Drive Presbyterian On Saturday, October 4, come and see how God is working at Lulwanda Children’s Home! Memorial Drive Presbyterian Church Fellowship Hall. 5-8 pm. $30 per person. Speak to Libby Adams if you plan to attend as she has reserved a table for us. Or, click here to register. We Want to Go Home Are these your dishes? If so, they are in the McPhail Hall kitchen waiting to be taken home! You can contact Virginia Krueger or Alvina Hamilton to pick them up. Thank you!   Alina Klimaszewska will be in Concert Friday, October 3, 7:30 pm, Belin Chapel, Houston Christian University. Alina and Dominika Dancewicz, The Polish Duo, will perform “Myths, Fables and Fairytales.” Don’t miss this wonderful concert.   Sunday Afternoon Zoom Book Study for Adults Have you ever wondered if you are following God’s will for your life? That you got it right? And just exactly how do you know? In the book The Way of Discernment by Steve Doughty, he draws from classic authors like Augustine and contemporary ones like Dietrich Bonhoeffer to reveal powerful ways in which to understand the practice of discernment. This is a study seeking clarity in discovering God’s guidance for both your personal and congregational life. Beginning on September 7 at 1:30pm on Zoom, come and join in from the comfort of your own home. This intriguing study will definitely deepen your faith and bless your spiritual journey. Books are available at Amazon.com (choose the green cover edition). Contact Lynne Parsons for the Zoom link at lynnep@sbcglobal.net. Everyone is invited.   T-Shirts Ready for Pick Up The St. John’s T-shirts will be in this week, we hope, and ready for pickup this Sunday, Sept. 28 after church service. Extras were ordered so if you need more or never got around to ordering, you are in luck! To help defray the cost of their purchase, we are asking for a “love offering” if you are able.   With hearts united in hope, we lift these names into the healing presence of God.  Harriet Harper, in hospice care Tom Edmondson, recovering from spinal surgery Mary Hughes, recovering from shoulder surgery and flu Family of Evie Nielson Holly Darr, health concerns Family of Gerry Jump Karen Alsbrook, health Kelsey Wiltz, health concerns Glen Risley, health concerns Family of Barm Alsbrook, death in family in Tennessee Madalyn Rodgers, Kathleen Captain's sister Joe Sanford, Scott Moore and Alice Rubio Those looking for a job St. Johns College Students Raina Bailey and the families in our PCHAS homes One Hope Preschool families and staff Caring for One Another in Prayer Our prayer list is a vital way we support one another, lifting up joys and concerns before God. From time to time, we update the list to ensure it reflects current needs. If a name has been removed and you would like it added back, please reply to this email and let us know who they are and why you would like them included. Your input helps us pray more intentionally and stay connected to those in need of ongoing support. Thank you for being part of this ministry of care and intercession. Prayer List Update – How Can We Pray for You? As part of our commitment to intentional and meaningful prayer, we periodically refresh our prayer list to ensure we are staying connected with those who need support. If you or someone you previously requested would like to remain on the prayer list, or if you have a new name to add, please reply to this email and let us know. We are grateful for the opportunity to pray with and for you.     Happy Birthday Bryan Boyd (Laurie Henderson’s son) (Sept 27) Linsey Sen-Roy (Sept 28) Dave Muanza (Oct. 1) Virgil Fisher (Oct. 2) Christine Nelson and Amy Caraballo (Oct. 7) Barm Alsbrook (Oct 9) Alice Rubio, Jeffery Herbert(Oct. 10) Stewart Hall (Oct. 14) Brandon Mulder (Oct. 15) Elizabeth Ragan (Oct. 16) Jamie Crawford (Oct. 18) Atillio Ator (Oct. 19) Jonathan Hughes and Fran Urquhart (Oct. 24) James Adams (Oct. 25) Joene Moore and Nathan Herbert (Oct. 28) Happy Anniversary Dan and Linda Herron (Oct. 11) Barm and Karen Alsbrook (Oct. 15) Church Calendar Thursday, September 25 5:00 pm Exercise Class, Building Sunday, September 28, 16 th Sunday after Pentecost 9:30 am Sunday School for Adults, Lectionary, Session Room 11:00 am Worship Service, live in sanctuary and on Facebook 1:30 pm Book Study: The Way of Discernment, Zoom Coming Events Fri, Oct 3, Alina Klimaszewska in concert, HCU Sat, Oct 4, Advent Innovation - Spiritual Formation, 10 – 2, McPhail Sun, Oct 5, Caring and Fellowship Meeting immediately after church in Room 203 Wed, Oct 8, 7 to 8 pm, Healing Hearts, Room 202 Thurs, Oct 9, St. John's Friends United (formerly Keenagers), Potluck, Learn Mahjong Sat, Oct. 11, Blessing of the Animals, Courtyard October 12, Stewardship Season begins Sat, Oct 18, “Apostle’s Creed” Class, Session Room Mon, Oct 27, 11 to noon, Healing Hearts, Room 202 Nov 2, All Saints Service Sun, Nov 16, Living Gift Market Sun, Nov 30, First Sunday of Advent Thurs, Nov 27, Thanksgiving Sat, Dec 13, “What is the Gospel” Class, Session Room Wed, Dec 24, Christmas Eve Service, 7 pm Church Calendar Online For other dates, see St. John’s Calendar online: https://www.stjohnspresby.org/events/     2025 Session Members and Roles Elders on the Session: Class of 2025 Shirley Boyd: Christian Education Virginia Krueger: Caring & Fellowship Leonie Tchoconte: Caring & Fellowship Elders on the Session: Class of 2026 Barm Alsbrook: Stewardship and Finance Michael Bisase: Buildings and Grounds Jan Herbert: Christian Education Elders on the Session: Class of 2027 Lynne Parsons Austin: Worship Omar Ayah: Faith in Action Marie Kutz: Personnel and Administration Other Session Leaders and Support Staff Jon Burnham: Moderator of Session Lynne Parsons Austin: Clerk to Session Tad Mulder: Church Treasurer Amy Caraballo: Financial Secretary     Kingdom Stewardship: Lessons from the Sermon on the Mount Coming next month, as we move into Stewardship Season, we will move into a new sermon series. Throughout "Kingdom Stewardship: Lessons from the Sermon on the Mount," we explore how Jesus' teachings guide us in stewarding all aspects of our lives—our blessings, influence, resources, relationships, and faith. By aligning ourselves with kingdom principles, we become effective stewards who advance God's purposes on earth. This series challenges us to examine where our treasures lie, to seek God's kingdom above all else, and to build our lives on the solid foundation of Christ the King. This series thoughtfully incorporates significant dates such as All Saints' Day and Christ the King Sunday, aligning their themes with the overarching focus on stewardship. By pairing teachings from the Sermon on the Mount with complementary Old Testament passages, we gain a deeper understanding of God's call to live as faithful stewards in every area of our lives.   Church Office Hours and Contact Info Our church office is open Monday through Thursday, from 10:00 a.m. to noon. Pastor Jon is typically available on Monday and Tuesday mornings, Alvina Hamilton serves on Wednesdays, and Linda Herron staffs the office on Thursdays. If you need assistance outside of these hours, please don’t hesitate to call us at 713-723-6262. To submit updates for the Prayer List or contributions to the Wednesday Epistle, kindly email Pastor Jon directly. Put "Epistle" in the subject line to make sure it gets in the Epistle. Church Website and Calendar Online Our church website: https://www.stjohnspresby.org/ For dates, times, and events, see St. John’s Calendar online: https://www.stjohnspresby.org/events/ Email Pastor Jon to request an addition to the church calendar or to add an event or article to The Epistle.
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